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02-16-2009, 02:38
It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older,

it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as

when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to shout at them.

Some are over-sensitive and there's nothing worse than an over-sensitive


My name is Ron. Let me relate how I handled the situation with

my wife, Julie. When I took early retirement last year, it became

necessary for Julie to get a full-time job for the extra income that we


Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning

to show her age. I now usually get home from the pub about the same time

she gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she nearly

always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts

dinner. I don't shout at her, instead I tell her to take her time and just

wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch at the

pub so eating out again is out of the question; I'm ready for some home

cooked food when I get home.

She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But

now it's usual for them to sit on the table for several hours after

dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each

evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates

this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to


Another symptom of ageing is complaining. For example, she will

say that it is difficult for her to do the shopping during her lunch hour.

But we take them for better or worse, so I just smile and offer

encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days.

That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing

lunch completely now and then won't hurt her. I like to think tact is one

of my strong points.

When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest

periods. She has to take a rest when she has only half finished mowing the

lawn and several extra breaks when she's vacuuming through the house. It

does annoy me, vacuuming when I'm trying to watch my favorite program, but

I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to make herself a

nice cup of tea and just sit for a while, and as long as she is making one

for herself, she may as well make one for me too.

I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support

Julie. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many

men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows

better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However,

even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your ageing

wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well

worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other, eh?


Ron died suddenly last week. He was found with a 24-inch

Stanley screwdriver rammed up his ass with only 2 inches showing.

His wife Julie was arrested, but the all-woman jury accepted

her defence that he accidentally sat on it.

02-16-2009, 02:56

02-18-2009, 00:57
I'll bet that left a mark!