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02-16-2009, 01:38
It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older,
it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as
when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to shout at them.
Some are over-sensitive and there's nothing worse than an over-sensitive
woman.
My name is Ron. Let me relate how I handled the situation with
my wife, Julie. When I took early retirement last year, it became
necessary for Julie to get a full-time job for the extra income that we
need.
Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning
to show her age. I now usually get home from the pub about the same time
she gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she nearly
always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts
dinner. I don't shout at her, instead I tell her to take her time and just
wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch at the
pub so eating out again is out of the question; I'm ready for some home
cooked food when I get home.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But
now it's usual for them to sit on the table for several hours after
dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each
evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates
this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to
bed.
Another symptom of ageing is complaining. For example, she will
say that it is difficult for her to do the shopping during her lunch hour.
But we take them for better or worse, so I just smile and offer
encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days.
That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing
lunch completely now and then won't hurt her. I like to think tact is one
of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest
periods. She has to take a rest when she has only half finished mowing the
lawn and several extra breaks when she's vacuuming through the house. It
does annoy me, vacuuming when I'm trying to watch my favorite program, but
I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to make herself a
nice cup of tea and just sit for a while, and as long as she is making one
for herself, she may as well make one for me too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support
Julie. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many
men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows
better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However,
even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your ageing
wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well
worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other, eh?
EDITOR'S NOTE:
Ron died suddenly last week. He was found with a 24-inch
Stanley screwdriver rammed up his ass with only 2 inches showing.
His wife Julie was arrested, but the all-woman jury accepted
her defence that he accidentally sat on it.
it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as
when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to shout at them.
Some are over-sensitive and there's nothing worse than an over-sensitive
woman.
My name is Ron. Let me relate how I handled the situation with
my wife, Julie. When I took early retirement last year, it became
necessary for Julie to get a full-time job for the extra income that we
need.
Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning
to show her age. I now usually get home from the pub about the same time
she gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she nearly
always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts
dinner. I don't shout at her, instead I tell her to take her time and just
wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch at the
pub so eating out again is out of the question; I'm ready for some home
cooked food when I get home.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But
now it's usual for them to sit on the table for several hours after
dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each
evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates
this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to
bed.
Another symptom of ageing is complaining. For example, she will
say that it is difficult for her to do the shopping during her lunch hour.
But we take them for better or worse, so I just smile and offer
encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days.
That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing
lunch completely now and then won't hurt her. I like to think tact is one
of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest
periods. She has to take a rest when she has only half finished mowing the
lawn and several extra breaks when she's vacuuming through the house. It
does annoy me, vacuuming when I'm trying to watch my favorite program, but
I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to make herself a
nice cup of tea and just sit for a while, and as long as she is making one
for herself, she may as well make one for me too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support
Julie. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many
men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows
better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However,
even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your ageing
wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well
worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other, eh?
EDITOR'S NOTE:
Ron died suddenly last week. He was found with a 24-inch
Stanley screwdriver rammed up his ass with only 2 inches showing.
His wife Julie was arrested, but the all-woman jury accepted
her defence that he accidentally sat on it.