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superglocker
02-23-2009, 16:41
She has the permit, she just doesn't "feel the need" to carry.

With all the crap going on in the world, more and more people are getting desperate.

I need some suggestions, please.

Thank you.


SG

Mrs.Cicero
02-24-2009, 14:35
She has the permit, she just doesn't "feel the need" to carry.

With all the crap going on in the world, more and more people are getting desperate.

I need some suggestions, please.

Thank you.


SG
say, "How dumb are you going to feel when the balloon goes up in front of you, and your gun is at home in the lockbox?"

or, "will you ever get over the guilt of having everything you need to save someone's life, but you left it all at home on the day you needed it?"

or, "I will NEVER forgive you if you die 'cause you left your gun athome."

Sometimes, one just has to be very BLUNT with women who think that carrying their gun will make something bad happen...
:faint:

Mrs.C

superglocker
02-24-2009, 16:20
Guess what? She accepted the "present" I bought her today (a Taurus PT25). I know, not much fire power, but it's a start.

She shot it tonight and said "hey, thats not bad."

We will head for indoor range this weekend and put a few rounds through it.

I'm hoping to move her up to a 9mm.

Thanks for the suggestions.

SG

MavsX
02-25-2009, 10:07
my girlfriend likes shooting the 9mm. she hates shooting my .40..and has only shot my buddy's .45 like twice

good luck

ithaca_deerslayer
02-25-2009, 10:51
My wife shoots, joined a club with other women shooters, has the unresricted NYS CCW permit, picked out her own gun (a lightweight snubbie), shoots it very well, has bought holsters for it, has cleaned it herself.

She carries, but yet she still doesn't carry as often as I do.

mrs_sra_chipmunk
02-25-2009, 17:02
say, "How dumb are you going to feel when the balloon goes up in front of you, and your gun is at home in the lockbox?"

or, "will you ever get over the guilt of having everything you need to save someone's life, but you left it all at home on the day you needed it?"

or, "I will NEVER forgive you if you die 'cause you left your gun athome."

Sometimes, one just has to be very BLUNT with women who think that carrying their gun will make something bad happen...
:faint:

Mrs.C

What she said.....

newg17shooter
02-26-2009, 09:05
You know, a new purse doesn't hurt either...I love my Galco. In fact, I have 2.

Our office just suffered a senseless tragedy wherein a thug posed as a potential home buyer and asked to see a seller's upscale penthouse apartment (the seller being the fiance of one of our partners) -- she elected to let him come up unescorted because she "didn't want him to think she didn't trust him." Her funeral was Tuesday. In this world in which we live today, we have to be on our toes ALL THE TIME, and as women, we can not depend on our husbands to be by our side 100% of the time to protect us. When my husband is with me, he is my protector. When I'm by myself...who is there? Mall security? No offense, but I'm pretty sure I have more training than the kid at the mall with a "badge" and walkie-talkie.

Just my point-of-view...hope it helps.

WI-Guy
02-27-2009, 19:59
Got kids?

That's what did it for my wife. When we discussed: 1) How would you feel if someone tried to hurt the kids and you weren't prepared to help? and 2) How would you feel if you missed the daughter's wedding day because you were taken out when you could have stopped it?

The kids were more important to her than herself, me or anyone else. She won't let them get hurt nor will she let anyone take out their mommy without a fight!

steve2870
02-28-2009, 23:34
My wife had the same problem. It turned out the problem was that she could not carry with comfort. We ordered a couple of holsters made for women (http://www.firearmssite.com/women_holsters.htm) and she was OK after that. The holster fit her, didn't dig into her ribs and she was happy.

GirlyGlock
03-01-2009, 11:47
I was a wife who didn't carry all of the time. I was more accurate with my Ruger P90 but it was uncomfortable to carry. The key is to find something you are comfortable wearing (like a Glock 26 :winkie:).

I was more diligent carrying when my children were younger. I couldn't image the thought of having to defend us and not having all means necessary at my disposal.

My husband keeps reminding me that ever though we live and work in good neighborhoods...strange things can happen. It is better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it.

Keep encouraging her. She'll come around!

cassandra
03-02-2009, 10:11
Don't know about your wife but I didn't feel comfortable about carrying until I had taken an intermediate shooting course, practiced at the range with hubby a lot and shot in a few competitions. The basic CC course is just the bare minimum IMO. I think men in general feel they're better at shooting and don't have as many reservations about carrying, while women are more self-critical.

SunDevil78
03-02-2009, 11:12
Another guy chiming in here, but I have carried since 2004. My wife and I had our CCW's but my wife felt the same way yours does. That was until our joint-paradigm changing event happened.

I was finishing up my undergrad at ASU and my wife and I were working at a charter school in AZ.

One evening (I worked until 9pm, she worked until 5pm but was preparing for the following day's activities) we both happened to drive home from work together, but in separate cars; I with my gun, her w/o.

Going south on Alma School Road in Mesa at the intersection of Alma School and Southern, I noticed a guy in a van next to my wife (I was in my car behind my wife's car).

He was making verbal advances towards my wife that she was aware of, but couldn't hear. I stayed aware of the situation as we proceeded south. He pulled in behind her, and in front of me. He followed us for a couple miles when we all stopped at a stoplight.

I called my wife and made her aware of the situation and what was happening. As mentioned, she was already aware.

I then told her to go proceed to go straight home and book it into our condo and let me take care of the guy. Looking back at this, it was a bad tactical move...for obvious reasons.

He followed us all the way home and pulled into our condominium complex. My wife did as we planned and I had a confrontation with the man. I asked him to leave.

He got visually and verbally perturbed with my asking him to leave saying "you've got no right to ask me to leave." I informed him it was private property and as an owner of one of the units I was within my rights to ask him to leave.

Now, I am 6'7 245 and luckily the guy backed off, got back into his car, closed his door and the confrontation was not taken to the next level.

This was a little unnerving, but not too big of a deal.

NEVERTHELESS...had I not been there, what would have happened?

If my wife weren't aware of this nutjob, might it have been different?

We'll never know. But she is now convinced she needs to be ready, and part of being ready is using her gun to defend herself if needed. In an ugly situation like the one that MIGHT have happened, w/o the gun, she's at a man's mercy, with a gun, she is in control.

It only takes one crazy SOB to end or severely alter one's life. After this incident my spouse began (and continues to this day) to carry everywhere. I didn't have to prod her into taking her gun afterwords.

She was scared to death and going over all the "what if's". If your wife isn't intellectually honest enough with herself or feels like she doesn't need it she'll need to have an "incident" like my wife and I's...and I hope you're there to intercede. (the intellectually honest comment wasn't meant as criticism BTW)

The way I see it, we got lucky once, but I'm not going to try fate again. At least she'll have the means to defend herself if, Heaven forbid, it happens again.

Good luck, man! I hope you don't need a lucky situation like ours to change your wife's mind!

Cat91
03-02-2009, 18:08
I'm almost never more than arm's length from a full-size .40 law enforcement grade semi-auto pistol. I have the training and qualify (for work-not police but I work with them) every year 37 or 38/40 on the range in a police qualification course.

Knowing that .40 is right there makes me feel happy. I may never need it but that one time I get sideways in a problem with an armed whackjob, he will never see it coming til it is too damn late.

Miao, Cat

Cat91
03-02-2009, 18:22
Our office just suffered a senseless tragedy wherein a thug posed as a potential home buyer and asked to see a seller's upscale penthouse apartment (the seller being the fiance of one of our partners) -- she elected to let him come up unescorted because she "didn't want him to think she didn't trust him."

We're trying to sell our house. It has a lockbox on the front with a key for the realtor. A realtor from another company walked in one Saturday when I was home-my car was right out front. No one thought to TELL US THEY WERE COMING! :steamed:

I snapped awake when I heard the door creak open real quiet and my cat suddenly ran by to hide...I knew someone was in the house and it wasn't my husband, and no one was coming to see the house that *I* knew about. Hubby knows better. He always comes in singing, even at 1 a.m., because I sleep with guess what under the pillow. I got up quietly and padded into the hall, my heart in my throat. The guy walks around the corner and I thumbed back the hammer on my USP40, pointed it at his face, and hissed "Down on the floor! Now!"

Ever see a guy literally crap himself? :nutcheck:

Well...I didn't shoot him. And I was all totally like "God, I'm sorry!" when he sufficiently identified himself. Needless to say...we didn't sell the place that day.

Who DOES that?! :shocked: He's lucky I didn't blow him out of his shoes!

Miao, Cat