Interesting article from a women who has lived it.
That is a really great article. It's also very long, I fear few would give it the attention it deserves.
I have an interesting perspective on these things. You see, when I was younger - I had an accident. In this accident I injured my back. Badly. It wasn't a mutilating injury, I didn't bleed from my back and bones did not come through the skin.
Nonetheless, I have lived with chronic pain ever since.
I learned a lot of things from this experience. One of those things is people very often ignore those things which they cannot see.
You cannot see the illness inside a persons head easily. Sometimes, yes, you can literally SEE the madness in their face or body language. But very often, you cannot.
Much like my back, which without an x-ray you would never know. I wouldn't let you see what it's doing to me.
On that very same note, not only knowing but LIVING that significant pain can be invisible -- when a person tells me they cannot do because they have back pain -- I'm the first to doubt it.
I can't say why, or that it's right. I know, I KNOW, if I had a job that required physical labor -- I would not be able to work. But I'm not in a wheelchair, you can't SEE that. Nobody believes it until they see something to prove it.
My own wife didn't *really* believe it was as bad as I warned her it was. Until one day I had to go to the emergency room because of a car accident, and they took her aside and asked her who my physician was. She told them I wasn't seeing one - then the nurse held up the x-ray and my wife broke down. Haha. I mean, it's not like I have gargoyles in my back - I think she got hit by the guilt bus, though.
Whatever, I digress.
Point is, most people -- I think -- can't really understand things they don't see. You can't always see the madness in these people. We're presented with homely photographs of the shooter - where the madness is not visible.
The gun, though, you can see that. So they fixate on what they can identify with.
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