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betyourlife
08-02-2008, 20:42
I will avoid all the other problems that plague our relationship, most of which are caused by her and jump straight to the latest argument.
My gf met this couple that later moved in right next door to me, apparently by chance. Well, they have been a constant source of irritation for me. I work some long hours and am constantly being ambushed by them, being asked to do this or that for them, as soon as I get out of my truck after coming home from work.
Since my gf does not live with me, she does not have to deal with it. In fact, my gf barely even works, and has nothing but free time on her hand(lives with her family). I work (professional/career) and go to school ft.
Well, a couple weeks ago they invited us to dinner (via my gf), and due to work stress I declined. One night they saw us leaving and came out to talk to us, inviting us to dinner for the next weekend. I declined because I have a lot of work and school stuff to do to catch up.
My gf jumps in and tells them that if I don't go, she will still go. After we left their presence I told her that was extremely disrespectful of her to say that or even consider going without me. SHe said that she was just trying to be nice and had no intention of going, and would never go without me.
Well, tonight she tells me they want to know if we are available for dinner. I told her to tell them no. She said it is not a problem if I don't go, she can go without me.
I reminded her about her telling me she would not go without me and how disrespectful she is being. Explained to her that she is welcome to go without me, but not to expect to hear from me anymore if she does.
Harsh? Maybe, but this is NOTHING compared to some of the BS that I have had to deal with from her. I feel like she is killing my sole. I constantly have to explain to her how to be a gf.
I understand that for her this is a social event, but I have no time for this. I work 50-60 hours a week, have a 3 hour commute, and go to school ft. She works 13 hours a week for minimum wage, and watches Dr. Phil.
I have no time to do anything, and when I do find time, I don't want to spend it with HER friends, who are a constant source of irritation in MY life, not hers.
NateHodge
08-02-2008, 20:45
She can't eat or have friends without you? You are too tired to go(I understand), so you don't want her going? Doesn't make sense.
tbhracing
08-02-2008, 20:47
I feel like she is killing my sole.
Very much time to move on and do not ever talk marriage with this person.
The titles "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" are for high school. If some woman doesnt respect you or is disloyal...simply dump her and move on.
You both need some time to grow into adulthood. Tell her to get a real job and support herself.
Time to listen to some Leykis 101 (http://www.freewebjunk.com/soundboards/300/)
Victoriagotagun
08-02-2008, 20:48
I constantly have to explain to her how to be a gf.
Controlling much? :upeyes:
This relationship has no future.
Clear and visible from your post IMO.
I will not comment on this event, because You both have (as we are saying in Poland) "something behind the ears" here.
MOHAA Player
08-02-2008, 20:48
Girlfriend wins:whistling:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yg4rBvb8uhg
betyourlife
08-02-2008, 20:49
She can't eat or have friends without you? You are too tired to go(I understand), so you don't want her going? Doesn't make sense.
She goes out with her gf's all the time, which I have no issue with. This was another couple that invited the TWO of us. How stupid does it look that I am at home doing homework and trying to get ahead in my career, and she is at their place having a good time, while counting on me to bring home the bacon?
PrincessCelica
08-02-2008, 20:50
She can't eat or have friends without you? You are too tired to go(I understand), so you don't want her going? Doesn't make sense.
I have to agree with ya, Nate. Just because she's your girlfriend shouldn't mean she can't have friends. It'd be one thing if she were going to dinner with a GUY friend alone. But a couple? I fail to see why that's disrespectful.
paynter2
08-02-2008, 20:50
I would dump her like a hot rock. Anybody stupid enough to hang with you deserves to be dumped.
Get a dog - I think that's as good as you will do.
IBTL
Warning sent
it sounds like the neighbors just really wanna have dinner with you two. just go have dinner with them one evening and maybe they'll stop buggin you:dunno:
GotGlock1917
08-02-2008, 20:51
I don't know about all the other problems you have with her.
Regarding this one, she is your girl friend, not your wife. She does not live with you. They are a couple, not some frat guys. She is an individual with rights and freedoms.
Why the hell can't she have dinner with friends.
Turn the tables. Does this GF who does not even live with you tell you can't go to dinner with friends.
I see control issues.
I'm sorry but that is just my opinion. I could be wrong.
NateHodge
08-02-2008, 20:51
She goes out with her gf's all the time, which I have no issue with. This was another couple that invited the TWO of us. How stupid does it look that I am at home doing homework and trying to get ahead in my career, and she is at their place having a good time, while counting on me to bring home the bacon?
You don't bring home squat. She lives with her family, not you. Either go with her, or hold your peice when she is invited and accepts said offer. I agree with GotGLock1917.
betyourlife
08-02-2008, 20:51
The titles "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" are for high school. If some woman doesnt respect you or is disloyal...simply dump her and move on.
Time to listen to some Leykis 101 (http://www.freewebjunk.com/soundboards/300/)
You would not believe some of the BS I have had to deal with from her. I won't say what, because it is too embarrasing that I am still with her. Leykis would murder me if he knew....
She can't eat or have friends without you? You are too tired to go(I understand), so you don't want her going? Doesn't make sense.
+1
Why can't she have her own friends and you have your own? Good Lord you sound like you want to be her dad more than her bf.
WTF do you want her to do? Sit and watch you do your homework? Let the girl go eat for hell sakes!!!
Dude,
Man up and stop posting on the internet and kick her to the curb.
For crying out loud dude, what would be the point of staying with a chick that doesn't respect you now? You work full time plus go to school full time, my hat is off to you but the GF who treats you like this now is only going to get worse.
IF you are as hard charging as you say you are (going to school full time + working FT) then you should be able to find a women that is on the same page.
Good Luck and remember tough times do not last but tough people do.
Dennis P.
itisbruno
08-02-2008, 20:53
Is she hot?
Lone_Wolfe
08-02-2008, 20:53
Controlling much? :upeyes:
Sure looks that way.
I can't imagine staying with any guy who thinks it's wrong for me to enjoy myself even if he's not free to go. It's not like I'm helping with his studies by hanging around distracting him. :upeyes:
betyourlife
08-02-2008, 20:53
I don't know about all the other problems you have with her.
Regarding this one, she is your girl friend, not your wife. She does not live with you. They are a couple, not some frat guys. She is an individual with rights and freedoms.
Why the hell can't she have dinner with friends.
Turn the tables. Does this GF who does not even live with you tell you can't go to dinner with friends.
I see control issues.
I'm sorry but that is just my opinion. I could be wrong.
Yes, in fact she does. SHe has double standards. If a couple that I am friends with invites us out to dinner and she doesnt want to go, I am not allowed to go.
She has a long list of double standards.
You would not believe some of the BS I have had to deal with from her. I won't say what, because it is too embarrasing that I am still with her. Leykis would murder me if he knew....
Then if she's such a terrible disgusting troll why are you still with her? I'm sure you are the perfect boyfriend and have no faults, so why don't you do her a favor and let her go?
Yes, in fact she does. SHe has double standards. If a couple that I am friends with invites us out to dinner and she doesnt want to go, I am not allowed to go.
She has a long list of double standards.
The word "allow" should never be in a relationship............for either one of you. :)
ScarFace88
08-02-2008, 20:54
Was it on, cuz?
oldgraywolf
08-02-2008, 20:54
This relationship has no future.
Clear and visible from your post IMO.
I will not comment on this event, because You both have (as we are saying in Poland) "something behind the ears" here.
This is all that needs to be said.
betyourlife
08-02-2008, 20:55
Sure looks that way.
I can't imagine staying with any guy who thinks it's wrong for me to enjoy myself even if he's not free to go. It's not like I'm helping with his studies by hanging around distracting him. :upeyes:
Yeah, we ain't married, but she wants to get married. SHe doesn't make 1/10 what I make, so if we were to ger married, I would be bringing home the bacon. ANd then what? I work long hours to support us while she has a good time with anyone she wishes on my dime? :upeyes:
So... is it on, cuz?
Sorry, couldn't resist!
Seriously, it sounds like you two live in different worlds. If it's not working, why are you together? There is a reason, right?
Edit: Darn you, ScarFace88!! This would have been my first "cuz" hijack, but you beat me to it! :supergrin:
Yeah, we ain't married, but she wants to get married. SHe doesn't make 1/10 what I make, so if we were to ger married, I would be bringing home the bacon. ANd then what? I work long hours to support us while she has a good time with anyone she wishes on my dime? :upeyes:
When you get married it's both of "YOUR" dimes. A partnership isn't where each of you give 50/50, it's where you both give 100%. From your previous posts it's obvious you are far too young to even consider marriage. Just date and have lots of fun.
This thread is gettin Good FAST.:shocked:
Popcorn anyone?
plenty to go around:popcorn:
betyourlife
08-02-2008, 20:59
+1
Why can't she have her own friends and you have your own? Good Lord you sound like you want to be her dad more than her bf.
Where did I ever say she can't have her own friends? :upeyes:
I said she has her own friends that she hangs out with all the time. But this couple invited the two of us out. It was supposed to be a couples thing.
Do you realize how disrespectful it is for her to go, while I am at home working for a better future that she will benefit from?
How would you like it if your husband did not work, and slept until noon everyday, while you had to work and go to school ft, so you could provide for both of your futures?
GotGlock1917
08-02-2008, 20:59
Yes, in fact she does. SHe has double standards. If a couple that I am friends with invites us out to dinner and she doesnt want to go, I am not allowed to go.
She has a long list of double standards.
In that case, you two have very serious problems and I see no good future for your relationship.
Where did I ever say she can't have her own friends? :upeyes:
I said she has her own friends that she hangs out with all the time. But this couple invited the two of us out. It was supposed to be a couples thing.
Do you realize how disrespectful it is for her to go, while I am at home working for a better future that she will benefit from?
How would you like it if your husband did not work, and slept until noon everyday, while you had to work and go to school ft, so you could provide for both of your futures?
Then you guys obviously have different goals in life. My hubby would never do what you described, just like I wouldn't do that to him either. We have the same goals in life. :)
NateHodge
08-02-2008, 21:01
Yes, in fact she does. SHe has double standards. If a couple that I am friends with invites us out to dinner and she doesnt want to go, I am not allowed to go.
She has a long list of double standards.
Hold on guys, this little tidbit could change things. Double standards WILL NOT be acceptable in a relationship. However, just because she expects something like this, you expecting the same from her doesn't make the problem go away. Her not wanting you to go somewhere( as long as its innocent) without her is wrong. There lies your problem, not the fact that she will go without you.
I see your relationship issues are a little deeper than going places/having friends that the other doesn't want. If you want to stay with her, you two have ALOT of work to do. It has been my personal experience that relationship issues hardly ever work out. I'll bet you a penny to a paycheck that there is also jealousy issues within the relationship. That jealousy is normally from the onw with the double standards.
In short, ditch her. This thread made page 2 in 13 minutes!
Where did I ever say she can't have her own friends? :upeyes:
I said she has her own friends that she hangs out with all the time. But this couple invited the two of us out. It was supposed to be a couples thing.
Do you realize how disrespectful it is for her to go, while I am at home working for a better future that she will benefit from?
How would you like it if your husband did not work, and slept until noon everyday, while you had to work and go to school ft, so you could provide for both of your futures?
When your Married, you have made a comitment. you promise to love and obey the other person no matter what. i think that means NOT to do that to the other person.
your NOT married, and have your own life!
PlaneJane
08-02-2008, 21:02
I would dump her like a hot rock. Anybody stupid enough to hang with you deserves to be dumped.
Get a dog - I think that's as good as you will do.
http://i189.photobucket.com/albums/z120/planejanel/Target.jpg
betyourlife
08-02-2008, 21:02
Dude,
Man up and stop posting on the internet and kick her to the curb.
For crying out loud dude, what would be the point of staying with a chick that doesn't respect you now? You work full time plus go to school full time, my hat is off to you but the GF who treats you like this now is only going to get worse.
IF you are as hard charging as you say you are (going to school full time + working FT) then you should be able to find a women that is on the same page.
Good Luck and remember tough times do not last but tough people do.
Dennis P.
All the good ones are taken. This one has a lot of good qualities, but she is not marriage material IMO, and that is not an opinion based on this one incident.
Hold on guys, this little tidbit could change things. Double standards WILL NOT be acceptable in a relationship. However, just because she expects something like this, you expecting the same from her doesn't make the problem go away. Her not wanting you to go somewhere( as long as its innocent) without her is wrong. There lies your problem, not the fact that she will go without you.
I see your relationship issues are a little deeper than going places/having friends that the other doesn't want. If you want to stay with her, you two have ALOT of work to do. It has been my personal experience that relationship issues hardly ever work out. I'll bet you a penny to a paycheck that there is also jealousy issues within the relationship. That jealousy is normally from the onw with the double standards.
In short, ditch her.
I could've sworn your advice to him would've been to not post anything on GT that your gf can read. :whistling:
:tease:
Dinner with the neighbors is obviously not the real issue. You could have told the neighbors that you would have to "eat and run" because you had to study. I bet they would have agreed to that.
If the GF is not pulling her weight in the relationship boot her to the curb but don't mix issues.
Dinner with the neighbors is obviously not the real issue. You could have told the neighbors that you would have to "eat and run" because you had to study. I bet they would have agreed to that.
If the GF is not pulling her weight in the relationship boot her to the curb but don't mix issues.
Nicely said:wavey:
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