warrior class and awkward social moments
Posted 12-08-2010 at 00:03 by TheBelly
It turns out that I am a part of a very small percentage of Americans: I am a veteran of a war.
I won't attempt to claim that I'm some sort of war hero. I know people who are, and I've been right next to extraordinary people when they have outperformed the rest of us. Sometimes that's just the way these things happen.
With all that being said, I have no real redeeming/outstanding qualities. I simply do my job the best that I know how and try to improve every day, even if it's just by the smallest margin. The problem is that I haven't been able to find the healthy balance between work and non-work topics. Being in the profession of arms, I get to play with guns, bullets, tanks, and all manner of war-like nouns. I don't actually feel this is a problem because I don't really have a social life, nor do I have the friends associated with the social life I don't have.
Then there's my wife. Young, attractive, smart, articulate, and blessed with all the social graces that I lack. SHE has friends. Her friends also have spouses. Those spouses and I rarely get along because the only significant activity in my life for the past decade has been war. This provides interesting dialogue shifts if the conversation starts somewhere between classical music and gardening. Most of the time I sit there and stare off into nowhere. Oh, I LOOK like a space-case but I'm actually thinking about guns, bullets, tanks, and/or other nouns of battle.
If anyone has any sorts of advice, I'm all for it. Please pm me.
I won't attempt to claim that I'm some sort of war hero. I know people who are, and I've been right next to extraordinary people when they have outperformed the rest of us. Sometimes that's just the way these things happen.
With all that being said, I have no real redeeming/outstanding qualities. I simply do my job the best that I know how and try to improve every day, even if it's just by the smallest margin. The problem is that I haven't been able to find the healthy balance between work and non-work topics. Being in the profession of arms, I get to play with guns, bullets, tanks, and all manner of war-like nouns. I don't actually feel this is a problem because I don't really have a social life, nor do I have the friends associated with the social life I don't have.
Then there's my wife. Young, attractive, smart, articulate, and blessed with all the social graces that I lack. SHE has friends. Her friends also have spouses. Those spouses and I rarely get along because the only significant activity in my life for the past decade has been war. This provides interesting dialogue shifts if the conversation starts somewhere between classical music and gardening. Most of the time I sit there and stare off into nowhere. Oh, I LOOK like a space-case but I'm actually thinking about guns, bullets, tanks, and/or other nouns of battle.
If anyone has any sorts of advice, I'm all for it. Please pm me.
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one fact of life is that many people have to be a part of something bigger than themselves in order to be happy. join a group of people that have the same interest as you that meets regularly and has social events. instead of feeling ostrisized and uncomfortrable in your own skin i beleive your satifaction will inprove and you self esteem will be higher than it is now!Posted 12-09-2010 at 04:52 by buzzdav 
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They owe their opportunities to talk about gardening and classical music to you, the one fighting for all of our freedoms. Break the ice by not breaking the ice. Sorry if that sounds like double-talk. I'll explain. When with your wife she can give little non-verbal hints as to when a good time to pipe up might be. My wife is a social butterfly and I almost always say to her if we're going somewhere that she should let me know when (subtlely, of course) to chime in. Been doing it so long now that it's gotten pretty easy now. Best of luck.
Posted 12-09-2010 at 19:15 by Kromedome
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Do any of the spouses like camping or another possible area in common that you could talk about? Sports,high school where you went, embarrassing work,dating moments....I know its hard to fit in sometimes and I'm real happy when I can identify with one of the people. Good luck. Tim
Posted 02-07-2011 at 10:14 by motorcycleman
