see that she takes a firearm course. unless you have the patience of a saint, don't try to instruct her yourself. i've seen so many male/female situations at the range where the male starts loosing his patience, gets testy and the female will naturally get scared and back away and want nothing to do with the whole thing. also start off with a 22. less recoil and let her read these forums. you can learn so much from other peoples experiences.