if you want to claim the honors, you take the shame with the package.
if you don't claim the shame, you ain't honorable. either he's one of yours.. or you don't have any claim on the honor of the service, and shouldn't admit to having served.
it's all one thing. you is a marine or you ain't. it don't have a glory switch on it..
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