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Old 10-09-2012, 07:06   #1
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Divorce

I'm not going to throw my personal details out, but this may be in my near future.


A lot of it depends on how a conversation I'll be having with her today goes. I don't want this, but there are some things that just can't work.

This is a big part of why I've been jerky (or extra jerky) as of late. No excuse, but please consider it.
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Old 10-09-2012, 08:55   #2
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Very sorry to hear that. Just remember, in sickness and in health, good times and bad.. You should fight to your core for your marriage. Not judging, just trying to encourage you.
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Old 10-09-2012, 09:03   #3
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Divorce is not worth it. Try save your marriage and have both parties to give their shares into the marriage.
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Old 10-09-2012, 09:21   #4
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I was divorced about 8 years ago, though I begged my wife to understand our differences and work on them including counseling. She was content with our "separate" lives while we were married, I wasn't. I divorced her. After 3 years, we came to an understanding and we have been remarried for 5 years now. Do everything in your power to stay married, in the end there is less pain.As my father used to say "It takes two to make a bargain" I wish you the best.............DOC
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Old 10-09-2012, 09:27   #5
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I'm not going to throw my personal details out, but this may be in my near future.


A lot of it depends on how a conversation I'll be having with her today goes. I don't want this, but there are some things that just can't work.

This is a big part of why I've been jerky (or extra jerky) as of late. No excuse, but please consider it.
Maybe log out from here and "log in" at home?
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Old 10-09-2012, 09:30   #6
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I'm not going to throw my personal details out, but this may be in my near future.


A lot of it depends on how a conversation I'll be having with her today goes. I don't want this, but there are some things that just can't work.

This is a big part of why I've been jerky (or extra jerky) as of late. No excuse, but please consider it.
Children?

What are the big issues/stumbling blocks to getting out?

Short answer- marriage isn't a suicide pact - get it over and done with ASAP and out of your life. Don't sweat the small stuff. Don't let it fester, it only gets worse.

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Old 10-09-2012, 09:40   #7
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Its cheaper to keep them. Make it work. If no kids are involved and its just not working, and you were wise enough to get a prenup. then end it. Run a cost benefit analysis and then you will know your options.

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Old 10-09-2012, 09:47   #8
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Its cheaper to keep them.
Not in every case. Even after paying child support and alimony, I have hundreds left over after bills every month. When I was married, I was broke just days after every payday and we bounced checks just before payday as well. I survived 21 years of that before I threw in the towel.
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Old 10-09-2012, 10:07   #9
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Thank you all for the kind words of support. I have had one divorce, and it nearly killed me.

I do want to save this. We have no kids, and we met and married in our 30s.
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Old 10-09-2012, 10:36   #10
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I was married once. Screw that noise I've never been happier and will not be getting married again.

Grab ahold of that yellow and black loop and pull my friend.

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Old 10-09-2012, 10:41   #11
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I was married once. Screw that noise I've never been happier and will not be getting married again.

Grab ahold of that yellow and black loop and pull my friend.
To each his own. Don't forget that ejection seats usually cause injuries. Even the best outcomes leave the aviator about an inch shorter!
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Old 10-09-2012, 10:42   #12
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Maybe log out from here and "log in" at home?
Astute observation, but it is actually the other way around.
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To each his own. Don't forget that ejection seats usually cause injuries. Even the best outcomes leave the aviator about an inch shorter!
Certain death (stay in the plane) versus a chance for life and happiness?

Gee, let me think about that one.
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Old 10-09-2012, 11:02   #14
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Certain death (stay in the plane) versus a chance for life and happiness?

Gee, let me think about that one.
Let me clarify. Ejection has its own risks, so you have to weigh the options. By way of metaphor, my engine is wonky, and an airport is in range. My rudder and elevators aren't jammed from a SAM hit.
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Old 10-09-2012, 11:25   #15
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Sometimes separation makes the decision easier to come about to.
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Growing old by myself is not very appealing. Besides, who's gonna feed the cat? DOC
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Old 10-09-2012, 13:51   #17
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I have a co-worker and close friend in the same boat. They have two small children and an a teenage step-daughter. They are both good people, just cant work it out. Neither one could afford the home they live in on ther individual salary, and my buddy would be beaten to death on child support and alimony.

I am begging him to stick it out, but he is ready to give up.

Luckily me and my wife have a good relationship despite the job. I was doing this when we met so we didn't have the stress of a career change into LE.
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Old 10-09-2012, 14:06   #19
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Let me clarify. Ejection has its own risks, so you have to weigh the options. By way of metaphor, my engine is wonky, and an airport is in range. My rudder and elevators aren't jammed from a SAM hit.
OK. I still say, eject and don't get in another plane.

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Try separating for a little bit, it helps.
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