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Old 07-24-2012, 13:35   #1
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Ladies, would this "pick up line" offend you?

You are at a club. Several guys hit on you and your friends. A nice looking , well dressed guy comes up and hands you a business card (well known local company) and says he would like to take you to dinner. You choose place and time. He will just meet you there and you can leave separately.

A friend did this and just received several nasty emails from her and her friends saying this was a terrible way to meet her..

We are just stupid guys but how was this offensive?

BTW the guy is 47 and the club caters to a 35-50s crowd. She appeared to be about his age and was not wearing a ring.
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Old 07-24-2012, 14:05   #2
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he should forget the tramp.

with the law suit slap happy society we are in today there is no way a man with money should pursue a woman. let them come to him.

he was playing ti safe, she showed her lack of class with her e-mails.
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Old 07-24-2012, 17:03   #3
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Sounds like a nut-job.
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Old 07-24-2012, 19:09   #4
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I completely fail to see what is offensive in that. I would have said maybe that's because it has been 20 years since I was single. But I fit in that age range, so I don't know what her problem was. Unless she was just a tramp looking for a one-night stand and when he said they would leave separately, she felt dissed or something. That's all I've got.

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Old 07-24-2012, 22:59   #5
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I don't see any problem with that.
Sounds like a well executed, thoughtful approach.
Women be crazy...
Lol @ posting this in "Women Issues" though!! I guess this is the place to get the female perspective.
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Old 07-25-2012, 20:03   #6
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Did he just hand her the card and that was it or did he try to get to know her better after he handed her the card?
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Old 07-26-2012, 01:32   #7
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I'd consider this about the most polite, respectful, and non-threatening approach I've ever seen. If I was at all attracted to him I'd definitely take him up on dinner.
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Old 07-26-2012, 01:42   #8
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Ladies, would this "pick up line" offend you?
Let me put it this way.

Only a tramp would be offended by a gentleman.

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Depends..... If he was a plastic surgeon or worked at a weight loss clinic.....

I could see where she could get bent out of shape.


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Let me put it this way.

Only a tramp would be offended by a gentleman.

Query,would a man holding/opening a door fer ya be offensive?.'08.
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Old 07-29-2012, 18:00   #12
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What the gentleman did was not awful, but he could have hung out a while, talked with her and gotten to know her a bit first, before asking her out.

IMHO, an invitation to coffee or lunch would be more appropriate, as it's easier to cut it off quickly if the people aren't compatible. Dinner is for a second date. Never ask a woman to meet you alone somewhere after dark (even if you know she might be carrying). He should ask her to pick a place she's comfortable with.
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Old 07-29-2012, 19:57   #14
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Query,would a man holding/opening a door fer ya be offensive?.'08.
To answer your question (all jokes aside) No I wouldn't be offended by a man holding/opening a door for me.

I'd be flattered. When a guy does that for me it tells me that he's not a self centered jerk and actually has some consideration outside of his own.

(Or else he just wants to......Oh never mind.)
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I'd consider this about the most polite, respectful, and non-threatening approach I've ever seen. If I was at all attracted to him I'd definitely take him up on dinner.
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Query,would a man holding/opening a door fer ya be offensive?.'08.
Not in the least.
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On the door opening question: When a gentleman opens a door for me, I always smile brightlly and say "THANKyou sir! Chivalry is NOT dead". And go about my business. It's always good to reward nice mannners.

(To head off the question, yes, I do hold open doors for men, if they have lots to carry or to prevent the door from slamming in their face. What's good for the goose...)
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On the door opening question: When a gentleman opens a door for me, I always smile brightlly and say "THANKyou sir! Chivalry is NOT dead". And go about my business. It's always good to reward nice mannners.

(To head off the question, yes, I do hold open doors for men, if they have lots to carry or to prevent the door from slamming in their face. What's good for the goose...)
I always hold a door when it's appropriate, for anyone.

I make it a point of thanking people (and especially women) for holding a door for me. I also appreciate it.

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Old 07-30-2012, 15:27   #19
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Offering to wine and dine her without her putting forth a single bit of effort?

She could be nuts, or just turned off by the sheer submissiveness of the offer, but either way the guy needs to stop supplicating.

He'd be better off doing the complete opposite: no card, no introduction, actually stay and chat, no mention of taking her out, no spending a dime on her.
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Old 07-31-2012, 19:36   #20
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Interesting approach, but a little impersonal, sort of like speed-dating. I'd be flattered at the approach, but unless he'd tried to get to know me a little before whipping out the business card, I'd conclude that he was only interested in a quickie and he'd never hear from me. I certainly would not give him an e-mail hard time, tho.

On the other hand, if he looked like George Clooney, and wasn't wearing a wedding ring or recent tan line on thst hand, I *would* be tempted....
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Old 07-31-2012, 19:41   #21
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Well, at least if he had a business card, we're reasonably sure he actually has a job.
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She probably wondered how many cards he handed out that night.
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Old 07-31-2012, 20:11   #23
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Query,would a man holding/opening a door fer ya be offensive?.'08.
This is something that has been drilled on by a small minority of the whacko fringe feminists who look for ways to be offended, and don't know (or care) what most women want.

You know the type. They will argue that all sex is rape. Yes, there are some feminists who really think so.

To veer this to the firearms area...

These women probably champion female independence, but would screech in horror at the though of a woman using a gun to defend herself.
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Did he just hand her the card and that was it or did he try to get to know her better after he handed her the card?
Late in the evening.
Several guys had hit on them.
He is 4 years divorced and just getting back into dating.

So he just handed her a card and invited her to dinner at her convenience.

He was bombarded with nasty emails and phone calls.
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Old 07-31-2012, 20:44   #25
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Well, at least if he had a business card, we're reasonably sure he actually has a job.
Great job. Well known local firm. Easy to check up on him first.

He doesn't get all the hate.
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