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Old 10-21-2012, 19:56   #1
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sister fell off the wagon

some of you may remember my thread about my disfunctional sister and my nephew.

She fell off the wagon after a month and a half or so of AA today. Just disgusted.

I am sure I will get some "it's a process" or "it's to be expected" crap from the whole alcoholism is a disease crowd.

I don't buy it. She is weak, lame and does not care about her son. He is 13, I am considering just asking him if he'd rather live with us or go to his grandparents. He doesn't deserve this.

What a piece of crap she is.
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Old 10-21-2012, 20:10   #2
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wont get argument from me i got a dumb ***** sister too .

BUT alcoholism is a disease and does run in genetics .
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Old 10-21-2012, 20:16   #3
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It would a great thing if you could facilitate a better home environment for her son either with you or someone else in the family.

The faults of a family member will seem much, much less when they are gone.
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Old 10-21-2012, 20:20   #4
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Old 10-21-2012, 20:21   #5
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Seen it before. People have to have their own will to quit. My aunt was heavily into drugs and alcohol had cancer multiple times people tried to help her she about drained my grandmother dry as far as money and whatnot.
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Old 10-21-2012, 20:25   #6
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I had a guy tell me early on in AA that the only thing you can be sure an alcoholic will do is drink. Hope she gets back on track, I'm a few months away from 20 yrs.
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Old 10-21-2012, 20:27   #7
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I try to not drink for a week or so every now and then. Rarely works.
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Old 10-21-2012, 20:36   #8
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I try to not drink for a week or so every now and then. Rarely works.
horse **** . you are always posting 30 times a week about drunk and drinking lol
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Old 10-21-2012, 20:42   #9
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Indifference is the key here and not disgust . I'm not goin to preach to you but you have no control over anybody but you , yourself and that's it..!

Give her all the rope she needs to hang herself but pray she doesn't..! You are helpless but (DISGUST) is not the answer..!

She must find her own way , her very bottom and there is nothing you can do but wait and not let her (HANG-HERSELF).!
Do nothing but wait except to stop any self destructive action.

Don't count anybody down and out , you don't have the right.
Just be there , pray , observe and wait..! Nothing no-one can do but her but do be there..!

Do not think anyone is hopeless cause I know better , people CAN change , just be there just in case. Someone has got to be rational so be just that and observe.........! Can you live with anything less than that ?
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horse **** . you are always posting 30 times a week about drunk and drinking lol
Like I said, rarely works
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Old 10-21-2012, 20:53   #11
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You have an alcoholic Sister and I have a Liberal Sister.

I don't know which is worse. Maybe you can treat alcoholics and make them better.
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Old 10-21-2012, 20:57   #12
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I had a guy tell me early on in AA that the only thing you can be sure an alcoholic will do is drink. Hope she gets back on track, I'm a few months away from 20 yrs.
Nice Congrats

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Old 10-21-2012, 21:07   #13
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A little story is needed here so's here it is:

The woman I fell in love with had this same problem , yes , my very own wife. 4 DUI's and all the worry and exspence that goes with it...!
After one of many sleepless nights , I told her , I will not live like this any more..! I left..! She pleaded with me not to leave but I left and said show me , proof , I need proof.

I gave her that last chance .! I've been happily married 27 years now. My wife has not had a drink in 27 years also !

If one has a sound , strong reason to change , anything is possible and damn , I'm worth it , simple.......! She is one lucky woman , for she has ME...!
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Old 10-21-2012, 21:09   #14
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My doctor advised me to cut back on my drinking. I decided that a fair compromise would be to continue to have my nightly beverage, but just cut back on the strength (from 2 shots to 1). And to be fair, I don't drink more than 5 nights a week.
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My doctor advised me to cut back on my drinking. I decided that a fair compromise would be to continue to have my nightly beverage, but just cut back on the strength (from 2 shots to 1). And to be fair, I don't drink more than 5 nights a week.
There are 5 nights in a week??? I'm drinking way too much.
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Old 10-21-2012, 21:22   #16
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Nice Congrats

If she is not ready. She is not ready
what does that even mean? we're all just supposed to wait around until "she's ready"?
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Old 10-21-2012, 21:26   #17
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Well at least she doesn't smoke pot.
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Old 10-21-2012, 21:29   #18
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What I expected:

The Okie Corral


Sorry for your trouble, never been there with a sibling but I have with a parent and a friend or 2.
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Well at least she doesn't smoke pot.
I'd buy her all the dope she wanted if she quit drinking.
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Old 10-21-2012, 21:33   #20
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So much for the Days That End In "Y" arguement.
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Old 10-21-2012, 21:39   #21
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What I expected:

The Okie Corral
I was thinking the same thing.
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Old 10-21-2012, 21:42   #22
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I just don't get it why people can't have just a couple of drinks and instead have to get wasted and ruin their and other people's life.

I just don't get addiction. In my mind it is just weak people looking for an excuse as to why they are weak and don't want to take responsibility for their actions.

I don't agree with the disease argument.
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Old 10-21-2012, 21:43   #23
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I fell off the wagon once. I landed on my head and it hurt. I guess that is what I get for drinking on a hay ride.



On a more serious note, I am lucky enough not to have alcohol problem, but if I did......I think recovery would be easier without having a kid around the house. It would be better for the kid and better for me.
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Old 10-21-2012, 21:44   #24
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Sorry for your trouble, never been there with a sibling but I have with a parent and a friend or 2.
I just saved this to my "forum pics" file. effin hilarious.
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Old 10-21-2012, 22:28   #25
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I'd buy her all the dope she wanted if she quit drinking.
But then she would just be arrested and put in jail. Maybe you too.

But seriously. That is tough.

Best you can do is pray for her and try to help the kid out.
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